We all have ways to serve in our Emotional Cup
An empty cup doesn't pour out. We all have ways to serve in our Emotional Cup.
Fancy! every blooming child needs a delicious pour of affection, love, attention and security.
Some seem to have a full cup most of the time or knows good ways to get a refill.
But most children get a little nervous when their cup gets near to empty.
Most children have their own ways to deal with such a situation:
1) steal from peoples cup,
2) misbehave to get your attention, and show that they need a refill,
3) appears to have unfathomable cups, or need round-a-clock 'topping off'.
4) not still for refill or evasively refuse them
5) bounce off the walls when they approach 'empty'
6) think they have to fight or compete for every refill.
What fills a child's cup:
1) play, 2) friendship, 3) one-on-one time
4) connection, 5) succeeding, 6) doing what they love to do or what they choose to do.
What empties the cup:
1) stress and strain, 2) rejection by peers, 3) loneliness and isolation
4) yelling and punishment, 5) failing, 6) fatigue,
7) doing what they are forced to do or they hate to do
Keeping a less filled cup is always a nice idea. Caution never let it reach the minimum.
Use it as a motivational tool. Your marriage and your entity does not exist because of kids, in fact its the other way round.
The heart of the matter is, it should be clear to them that their parents are the most important are the most important people in their lives.
Give them a chance to look up to you, it is to their advantage if treated as second class citizens in their families.
That was the practicality about touching elder's feet, using separate set of pronouns for elders,
not sitting on their chairs, not entering their rooms, waiting for them to first getup from dinning table, using a soft tone while around,
validating their friends from parents before making one etc.
Parents talked more and a lot more among themselves than they talked with their children.
Therefore children did not interrupt elders conversation and family gettogethers were more important than any other activity.
by placing your child first, you raise a child feeling entitled to everything, without earning or deserving it.
My advice to our teenagers complaining "what can we do, where can we go!" is, GO HOME. water you garden, wash the windows, learn to cook, arrange your closet, get a job, visit the sick, study your lessons and after you are done with all this, read a book.
Your city is not indebted to you for farcical facilities and your parents do not owe you fun.
What's The Best for you is to grow up, stop being a fusspot, pull out of your dream-world, progress up a backbone - not a wishbone. Start behaving like a responsible child-person-citizen. You are important and you are needed. Get to more information visit here:- https://www.sarvottamnoida.com/